We're Breaking free!

You give and give and give, but what happens when there's nothing left to give? What happens when you've given all of yourself away? Being a nice person and being THE person are 2 different things. Let me explain being a nice person means being there for others when you can, trying to help out when it fits into your schedule, but being THE person means you are the main go to guy/gal for everything. It becomes a lot; it becomes overwhelming and ultimately it becomes your breaking point. Most of my anxiety arises from being a people pleaser and not being able to say no due to the fear of letting others down. However, people have no problem asking me for everything all the time because they know I will always be there. I have felt numb for as long as I can remember and trying to get myself out of it has gotten harder and harder as the years went on. I feel like a flower, and everyday someone is pulling off a petal until there's nothing left. It's tough, trying to explain to someone how I'm feeling; especially when they are the contributing factor to me being overwhelmed. I never want to let anyone down, and that stems from my childhood and being the oldest and always having to be there for everyone all the time. I've learned to just deal with the fact that I am the keeper of my family and that most of their life's burdens get put onto me. And yes, there is no reason I have to take on this role, and lately I have set up boundaries to avoid the stress in my life, but it doesn't seem to work. No matter what I say or do at the end of the day I'm the bad guy for not wanting to participate in things that heighten my anxiety levels. I never want to have any confrontation, but sometimes you have to be selfish to become selfless. For anyone reading this, please remember it's okay to say NO! It's okay to set up boundaries and avoid people and activities that add to your stress, and if those people can't understand that you need to do what's best for you (even if that means not being there for them) then those aren't the types of people you want in your life. Stay strong queens, you got this! One of my favorite things to tell myself is "just breathe" I liked it so much I got it tattooed on me lol. Your mental health is more important than anything else in life, and I hope that no matter what happens, you always put yourself first even if that means cutting others off.

Peace and love ❤

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