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Watered Down

Do you ever feel like the version of yourself you give to others isn't the version that's truly you??? It's like you have to hide part of you away in order to make others like you. You learn to "tone down" who you are as a person to please those who don't quite understand you. The term used for that is "watered down". When someone describes you as a watered-down version of yourself, it's a nicer way of saying you're being a people pleaser and aren't acting like you normally would. I've talked about this before, being able to say NO... it's literally the hardest thing to do, especially for someone like myself. Having any sort of confrontation turns me off completely. I hate it, I rather just avoid it until it goes away. Unfortunately, that's not how it works. Unless resolved, you're just pushing down an issue and waiting for it to explode in your face. There are lots of ways to address an issue without it escalating into something untamable. For instance, writing it down before you address it is an excellent way to get your thoughts in order and be able to say what needs to be said without any distractions. Another way would be to use a reference, whether it's a friend of a friend that has had the same issue, or if it was a topic of conversation on the radio, both are easy ways to kind of slip it into any daily conversation pertaining to the topic at hand. Now for someone like me who tries to avoid anything uncomfortable, it can be hard to bring it up with someone who you're close with, for fear of how the other person will take it. It's awkward to have to bring up the conversation and then it led

to unresolved issues that later turn into an actual problem that could harm the friendship/relationship. I do believe that those who suffer from anxiety (like myself) tend to overthink the situation and we end up getting all worked up over nothing. Sometimes the best thing to do is just talk it out. Even if it doesn't come out exactly how you want it to, at least you've set it up to lead to the issue at hand. Things aren't always as scary as they seem, and the only way to really know what the other person is thinking is if you ask them and communicate. No one should have to "water themselves down" just to be accepted. You'll never be able to be your true self if you're always worried about what others think of you. As long as you are happy with yourself, that's all that matters. True happiness comes from within, and nobody should be able to take that away. So, keep on communicating, speak your mind, and live your life to the fullest! Have a happy and healthy holiday season and see you all in 2022!! ๐ŸŽ„๐Ÿ’—

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