Okay ladies, we have all been there, "the break up period" when you have all these mixed emotions and you just don't know what to do. You want to smash his headlights while also choking him out, and then you want to hug him but also push him down a flight of stairs. It's a very difficult time for us girls and even though you want to stay in bed and listen to depressing music all day I advise you not to. Nothing will come from wallowing in self-pity. You can go on and on as to what you did wrong or what he did wrong or what you both did wrong, but ultimately, it's not going to change anything, so don't keep beating a dead horse. YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT! Never let a guy put you down or tell you you're not good enough or smart enough or pretty enough because that's his way of covering up all his flaws by picking on you. The best way to get over a guy...get under a new one LOL (just kidding) but seriously the best and most efficient way I've learned to get over a guy, is to be around your girlfriends! They have been there, they know what to say, and what snacks to bring 😁. They won't mind your 3rd wheeling, or cancelling a date with their bae to be with you in your time of need. Honestly, they rather be with you than you be alone! There's an old saying "make good girlfriends, because they are most likely going to outlive your husbands." This is so true; I have best friends set for life and I wouldn’t know how to get through anything without them! Another thing, GET RID OF HIS CRAP! Everything he gave you, give it back to him, burn it, sell it, I don't care but get it out of sight! There is no reason to hold on to something that's not worth a Damn thing. This means photos too! Even the ones on your phone, delete them! Photos on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, GET THEM OUT OF THERE! Also, enough with the sad love station on Pandora, crank up some Lizzo or Ariana Grande, put some make up on and rock out girl! Upbeat music can lift your mood! Finally, the hardest part of all, block him. Block him from every social media platform you have him on. As much as you want to see what he's up to it just makes it 100 times harder to get over him. You have to do it. It's for your own good, I promise. A break up is hard, but it gets better, maybe not today or tomorrow or next week but it does. There is always a brighter tomorrow but you won't even notice it if you always have the shades down. One guy DOESN'T define you; you define you! You are so much stronger than you think, and you will get through this!