The holidays are a wonderful time for us, we get to be with our friends and family, some of whom we haven't seen in a while. The food is always great, we get to start fresh and ring in a brand new year, and the gifts don't hurt either haha. Unfortunately the holidays bring out the worst for others. For some people the holidays are a stress induced $h!t show where from November 1st until January 1st they are running around like a chicken without a head trying to prepare the most magical time for everyone else to enjoy. Hello, my name is Gina and I am one of those people. Every year for as long as I can remember I have tried to make the holidays an over the top magical time for everyone around me. This caused me to hate Christmas for a very, very, long time. The meer sound of anything holly jolly made me want to punch a small child. I tried to get everyone the perfect gift, and make sure everything was planned accordingly, and for the most part everything ran smoothly. It wasn't until one year I just couldn't fake it anymore, I refused to spread any cheer whatsoever and I made sure to let everyone know. I didn't even come down Christmas morning to open gifts. I was MIA and slept all day and it wasn't until around 11pm on December 25th did I come down to make myself a peanut butter sandwich. About 5 days later I finally decided to open the gifts I left for dead on Christmas day that my mother kindly put in a pile for me in the basement. That was the year I decided to never let this holiday dictate how I want to feel or start the new year. So ever since then I have made sure Christmas was spectacular and everyone got what they wanted. No one ever had more or less of gifts, we all got the same amount to open and I would add their names to my gifts if they were struggling with anything and couldn't get anything for anyone. Now this has been going on for a while, and it wasn't until 2 years ago I decided to make a virtual list of things I wanted to share with my family so they would have an easier time finding something for me. (I am quite picky and hate getting useless things) now I'm not here to tell my tale of how my heart grew 3 sizes and blah blah, blah; I'm here because Christmas for couples is probably the most stressed of all. Image being with someone and actually having no idea what they want. It's very nerve wrecking not knowing what to get someone you love. See I'm a listener, and from October to December I listen to what people mention, what they "bookmark" or what makes their eyes pop. That's how you end up being the best gift giver, and not to brag, but I am. Men aren't like that. They will either wait til the last possible minute to get you a gift, or they will give you a Pandora bracelet and a charm every year until that thing is so full you can't lift your wrist, but they won't get the hint that you were eyeing those new MK boots you've tagged them on instagram 100 times! Most couples make a budget so no one feels obligated to spend more than they can afford, (rent is still a thing during the holidays) but if you're like me, you know that the best times to buy things are during the peak sale times and then you feel bad because that watch you got your boo that was supposed to be $200 got knocked down to 50% off so now you feel like you need to get him something else to make up for the $100 you didn't spend. It's a vicious cycle that never seems to get better the longer you've been with that person. It seems that everyone gets into the holi-daze and confused state of mind and it takes a toll on your mental health. Not to mention your wallet. Talk to your s/o and try to set up something so neither one of you feels bad Christmas morning opening up gifts and not knowing if you should have done more. I know people think it's insensitive to give cash or to ask what others want, and I kind of agree. However, we as individuals can take it upon ourselves to help out our friends and family and maybe make a short list of things you'd really enjoy or need and this way even if you write down 10 things and only get 5 you can get the rest with whatever gift cards you get from those family members you only see once a year. The holidays are supposed to be a fun time to get together and enjoy each other's company. Especially during times like these where being around people is so rare. Gifts aren't what's important, it's time spent together with the ones you love that make the holidays worth it!
Xoxo Happy Holidays 🎁