Why are we willing to break our own hearts but save the hearts of those who are breaking us?
This question sits heavy with me. For as long as I can remember I was always concerned about how others were feeling and I'd put myself on the back burner. I basically did everything in my life for the sake of others and would strive to make sure they felt loved and needed, but that also meant I was neglecting my own well being and that took a toll on my mental and emotional health. I always felt the need to help others because I thought it would make me more loveable; turns out, I'm already lovable just the way I am! This doesn't mean I gave up on helping others, it just means I give the love I get. I've learned to mirror the actions of those who are near and dear to my heart. If you don't like how I'm treating you, think to yourself...if she's mirroring her feelings to mine, maybe I should step up my game and give him/her the love they deserve. There's a quote that sits in my head for times I feel like I'm giving to much to those who aren't worthy of my effort; "And she'll force herself to smile, even though she wants to cry, because deep down she knows that she will make sure everyone around her is happy before she lets them know she's not. And that right there is what makes her something special, that she is willing to put her happiness aside to make those she loves feel good". For anyone who feels like they need to make sure others are taken care of in order for them to love you right, please remember it's not your job! You are not a burden to those who truly love you, and you can't help those who don't want to help themselves. You need just as much love as you're giving, and if they can't see that, then they are NOT the one for you. You have such a big heart, and someone out there is waiting for you so they can reciprocate the love you're giving. 💞