A Dependant

Here's the thing, everyone assumes that you need a person in your life in order to make your life better, and in some cases that might be true; (doctors, lawyers, teachers). However, here's the thing we don't consider... We don't NEED a s/o person, we ENJOY having a s/o person. I need water to survive, but I don't need a man to make my life better. Having a s/o is great, it's someone to do crazy (or non crazy) things with, but it's not all that matters. You can be with someone because you love them and also want some time for yourself as well. There shouldn't be any judgement on that. You're allowed to prioritize yourself before anyone else. When you start to depend on someone fully it leads you to believe you need them in order to survive. You can't be alone because you're so codependent on someone else. But what happens when that person is gone? See, you can do everything right, but if that person doesn't want to be with you, they will find every reason not to be. It's not you, they just can't handle the strong confident person you are. They have their own battles within themselves that they need to address before they can ever let anyone in. They just need someone to pin it on so they make you feel like you are the problem in this relationship. All the while, they are the ones being so attached to you that you feel suffocated. People who get so attached usually have some childhood trauma that goes along with it. Something about them makes it hard for them to be alone. Those are the people who usually jump from one relationship to the next. Those types of people have to address their own emotions in order to fully be able to be alone and cope properly. Just remember, you are good enough, and they make you out to be the bad guy in order to cover up their narcissistic ways. Never let anyone define your worth, you are good, you are kind, you are enough! 💟

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